I remember a time when things were so simple, medically speaking. You felt unwell, went to the doctor and they actually helped you. Illnesses like Cancer, which everyone knows has a slim chance of survival, depending on the stage it’s at (but it’s possible), were/are accepted for the fatal nature of the disease. Doctors aren’t expected to cure this one so, their best efforts are appreciated for going above and beyond.
As a child, I used to respect doctors and had quite a high regard for them. I don’t really remember hearing people complain as much about medical care then, as I do now. There’s almost a feeling of helplessness in the plight of people (living with Hydrocephalus) around the world, myself included. (I especially see this through my blog).
I’ve been asked the question many times “But why don’t the doctors want to help you?” Similarly, I’ve been told, “The doctors are scared that they’ll do more harm if they operate on you” as if that justifies their inaction, should cause me to back down or feel differently. (The opinion of “well-meaning” people – right or wrong, who knows).
I can fully respect the fact that they want to “Do No Harm”. But, I question the state it leaves patients in and what happens to them/their health, regardless of whether doctors physically help or not.
A condition like Hydrocephalus does not afford the person living with it, the luxury of choice.
Sure, there are people who live for years without surgery but, they still live with the effects of the condition. Plagued by headaches and ill feeling beyond their control (Believe me when I tell you, it is by no means insignificant). A time where they have no other choice but to seek help from the very people who refuse to help them. For me personally, I’d rather not have someone operate on me who has ANY reason for NOT helping me, regardless of what that reason is, OR how skilled they are at brain surgery.
The way I see it, they are probably doing more harm by not doing anything, than they are if they did. Also, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out, the older you get, the riskier any operation becomes. So, what about people who are over a certain age? Do they just discard of them this way? Leave them to suffer..? Where is the humanity? This is something I am very aware of for myself as I get older…
I’m starting to wonder, having been to the Emergency Department one too many times without help and, when you are labelled as “Depressed” after if this is not purely an excuse or a way of deflection on the doctors’ part?
I’ve always taken the stance that no sane person would willingly ask a surgeon to operate on them, much less their brain. I’ve literally been in this position and whether it was driven by my own inner fear or anxiety, is quite frankly irrespective to me. I’m a firm believer that one way to survive this condition is through acceptance but more importantly getting to know it intimately. It’s only once you do this and you know what you’re dealing with, that you can face it with “ammunition” for survival. It’s no use turning a blind eye or ignoring it. It’s no use pretending that someone else, with the same condition, is worse off than you and that you are “lucky” because it’s the same condition just your anatomy which differs.
While I don’t know the answer to the question, I’ve come to believe that for every 10 doctors who will refuse to help you, there will at least be one, who will. Don’t ever give up on yourself and don’t ever give up on finding that one doctor who will give you the care you need. As for the rest of them, I suppose I can just pray that they see the light and error in their inaction.