I used to think that if I didn’t put every effort into something…that it would be the same as failing…I no longer do.
If I gave up because it was too hard and I just couldn’t see a positive outcome…I’d be failing. Not true…
If I gave a little more than the other person, then it would be enough to compensate for what they lacked and I would be happy…I definitely failed…myself!!!
The reason for my last statement is because unfortunately we cannot make other people feel a certain way or give as much as we expect them to. When we compensate or make excuses, we start taking ourselves for granted. We lower our own self-worth and we settle for less than we deserve.
What’s the use of complaining that life is crap when part of the crappy state is caused by our acceptance of other people’s ill-treatment of us?
We only get one chance at life…when we die, it’s over. No re-take, no second chances and its definitely too late to say sorry.
Being in a relationship means hard work yes, but I firmly believe if you love the other person…you would literally be willing to give your left (fill in the blank as you wish) to see them happy. In this case, you would not be taking yourself for granted because if you are lucky enough to have a person in your life who shares this rationale..then it will be sweet as chocolate.
Over the years, I have to admit that my personal view on marriage has changed completely. I used to believe in love, respect and loyalty…I don’t anymore. These are things afforded only to the souls who manage to get it right the first time. I think I missed that boat…
People say things like: “Let your guard down and be open to new experiences” and “you should almost allow yourself to get hurt”. I guess there’s the belief that at the end of the experience, you’ll have a deeper appreciation for what you have. Like the saying goes… “You don’t know what you’ve lost until it’s gone…”
To that I say. Why put yourself in a position to lose it in the first place? We don’t often notice the glimpses in life of the warning signs when things are gonna go belly up. What a gift when we do though…
Subtle signs are what we need to focus on. Breaking points don’t always happen without a crack or two.
If you see the signs…and, you value what you have…then TAKE NOTE!!!
In the words of my sister-in-law “Forewarned is forearmed”