Life is too short to waste time hating anyone or holding a grudge…
There was a time, many moons ago (I was very young and immature) when I used to hold grudges. It wouldn’t matter if it were a big thing or the littlest, most insignificant occurrence. I used to hear the very words in the title of this post many times over and yet…I would continue to bear my grudge. And, I would hate what other’s had done unto me as well as the perpetrators themselves.
I felt justified in my reaction to these situations and gave myself permission to feel the way I did. I was wrong…
I no longer do that. Maybe it’s because of all that I’ve been through, maybe it’s divine intervention or maybe, I just grew up. Whatever the reason, I’m so glad I don’t do it anymore. It’s something that can literally add years to your life, holding on to old crap and not letting go because you’re afraid it will be a sign of weakness. Bull crap! It’s not worth losing time over and it sure as heck isn’t good for you, your health or the other person.
People in your life will hurt you from time to time, and yes, most times it will be the ones closest to you. They will rip out your heart and eat it in front of you. They will think nothing of walking all over you, making you feel small and insignificant. It would even be easy for them to see your pain and still feel nothing.
Now you might say that there are some things you just can’t forgive or forget. You would be correct. However, think about the effects it will have on you, should you choose to let those feelings fester inside your heart. Ask yourself these questions…
- Years from now, will this really matter?
- What significance will this incident have in the greater scheme of my life?
- Is it really worth my time and effort?
- Is the other person really worth it?
Once you can get past answering these questions, decide what your next course of action will be.
Life goes by way too quickly. I know, this sounds like another one of those annoying slogans you see plastered on bumper stickers (do people still make those? It might be a tweet now…doesn’t really matter). The point is, time is something you can never get back. It doesn’t matter what you do or what you think you can do…you will NEVER get it back. What’s been done and said is all in the past and has gone down in the book of history. It can’t be undone or unsaid. However, you can forgive, choose to love and set yourself (and the other person) free.
I didn’t say it was going to be easy…It’s not meant to be. You can try. You owe yourself at least that. I guarantee…the more you do it, the better you’ll get at it.
Go on…give it a go!
(Just to re-iterate)